Relocation

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I've lived in a different country from my parents for over 10 years. I have no siblings. My parents need much more support now and I'm considering moving back. Has anyone done this. Do you regret decision? Or has anyone not done and regretted it. I'm so conflicted.

Would you be able to transfer your work? Do you have a partner and/or children and, if so, what about their jobs, education, where would they be? Would you totally relocate or retain somewhere to live in the other country?

And have you ever been a carer? Do you know what you'd be taking on?

Not a different country, but I have relocated from approx 6 hours from elderly parent to 2-3 hours away. I wouldn't move closer than that as I don't want to be involved in day-to-day care.

I can relocate with job, children grown up and working in new country they would remain, DH would need to split time between the two. Understand re caring responsibilities it's not something I've experienced before

We did, regretted it almost instantly.

Came home largely due to stress of dealing with MILs poor health, thinking it was for a couple of years. She lived for another 18 years. By which time I could cheerfully have finished one of us off.

I had the benefit of being closer to my own family, but we are less fulfilled work wise than we were when we lived abroad, and DH’s single sibling is now also looking for care/ support which I am very reluctant to be drawn in to.

Can you perhaps try a couple of months leave of absence, to perhaps sort out care/ domestic help etc and also to see how you feel being long distance from your own DH & DC?

Think long and hard would be my advice.

Thanks for your perspective. A trial stay feels like a good suggestion, I will look into that