I wrote on here back in September/October time about my grandmother who raised me, but since having a child of my own has become a nightmare and caused me alot of aggravation on a family holiday.
After a lot of helpful advice I went no contact for two months, but felt absolutely terrible for my innocent grandfather as he was desperate to see his GGson so I initiated contact and invited them over for lunch. I never expected an apology for her behaviour in the summer during their visit and there was no mention at all of what happened. It was an uncomfortable visit and instead of keeping her mouth shut she made a few digs which I didn't retaliate too as I didn't want to upset my grandfather.
Gfather is having a few health struggles at the moment and part of it is his mobility and he unable to get in and out the bath which is where their shower is. I recently moved and the new place has an adapted shower so I invited them over the following week so he could use the shower at his leisure and be safe in it. Well this didn't suffice as she then went crazy at me via text when I questioned her about something. She cancelled the visit and basically told me to F off.
I again went no contact and heard from various family members she wasn't being very pleasant about me and was complaining I wasn't letting her see my baby. I'd like to add, I have not once said she is not allowed to see him, she has continuously told me she no longer has a great grandson etc etc so it's been her decision not to see him.
Over the last few weeks I've been contacted by her sister who I don't have much of a relationship with as she is very similar to my Nan in her personality and opinions so we clash a lot. I knew she was creeping and contacting me for no other reason than to convince me to let my Nan see the baby. After the fake pleasantries were swapped, she accused me of using my baby as a weapon and that I should let my Nan see him. I explained everything that had happened and she admitted my Nan has missed out and lied about a lot of it and that she would just keep out of it as it appeared to be a lot more complicated than she was lead to believe. Around an hour later I then received another message from her saying actually she wouldn't stay out of it because her sisters business is hers too. I said my bit and blocked her.
I was then informed my grandad was unwell and bit the bullet and too the baby to see him and I wanted to make sure he was ok. Again, everything was civil and he said I'd given him the greatest Christmas present ever by going over. Christmas Eve my father took the baby to see them to swap presents and give me some time to pack for a trip to see family abroad.
I video called my Nan Christmas Day and sent her photos and thanked her for the gifts. Today I've been informed that my Grandmother is now telling family I did not thank her for the gifts, nor did I send photos or bother to call on Christmas Day. I'm absolutely mortified. I sent my dad screenshots of the conversation on Xmas day and also the call and duration. She backtracked and said she had the photos but I definitely didn't call her. My father sent her the screenshot of the call information and her response was she didn't want to talk about it and get into another conflict.
Does anyone else here think she's possibly unwell?! Or just harbouring a grudge and is trying to still make me look like an awful person to the rest of the family so is deliberately lying?!
She's causing me so much stress, I would love to go NC but I'm so close to my grandad and she won't let him see the baby without her and intercepts all his messages etc so I can't talk to him on his own. I feel so lost!