Night-time incontinence solutions

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DF (83) has Parkinson's and is struggling with night time incontinence.

He gets up several times in the night and changes the padded underwear that he uses.

DM lines up a set of padded pants with pads stuck in ready for him to use.

The padded underwear, even with an extra stick on pad, is not absorbent enough.

To complicate the issue, he has a huge hernia which means sizing is difficult.

He would not manage to use slips or pull on paper pants himself- the pull ups are too stretchy and do not stay open for him to put his foot through. He wants to be independent.

DM has contacted the continence service but they are not very helpful. I have said to try the Parkinson's nurse too.

I've suggested cutting out the pad from a slip and stitching it into his cotton padded pants but that's obviously a lot of faff for DM and he would need 3/4 pairs a night.

Does anyone have any "outside the box" solutions for this problem? Or know of some good products that would be better than what he already has.

@ItsAllGoingToBeFine
Thank you. Yes, my mum has been putting stick on maxi style pads in the pants my dad changes into in the night but they are not big enough.

The pads you have linked look the perfect size but my dad wouldn't manage to put them in his pants himself and my mum can't get up with him in the night- she's already worn out. This is the trouble- I don't think there is a simple solution.

I mentioned before, I cut out the pad from a slip (nappy) and sewed it into a pair of my dads pants to hold it in place but my mum isn't convinced of this idea 😄 and is also probably horrified at the thought of having to sew pads in 4/5 pairs of pants everyday for the foreseeable future. I've only sewed a few over stitches- two front, two pack. I'd be happy to prep them if it worked. The pads you have linked are like the pad part of the slips and would be better than cutting slips up. It has to be something in his own pants as the elastic ones don't hold open on their own and he couldn't put slips on himself.

What about more of a disposable incontinence style pants? Tena and attends make them they there is no pad to slip about or move

Would it be possible to use safety pins to hold the pads in place? That way she could prep a few pairs in no time rather than the faff of stitching them in place.

There are washable ones available on amazon

@Mumof1andacat
Yes, he's got the washable ones but they are not absorbent enough for nighttime.
Unfortunately, he can't put the disposable ones on himself because the elastic is too springy and doesn't stay open enough to put his foot through.

Thank you, though

@Soontobe60
Yes- I put safety pins on my first demo pair to show my mum but then worried that they would dig in to my dad's skin and/or hernia so took them off and went for a few stitches.

Thank you, though! :)

If you haven’t already tried them, I’d recommend washable incontinence y-fronts. As a carer for many years to a family member with severe learning disabilities I found them very effective.

The gusset area contains a washable very absorbent pad. It’s not removable. The entire garment goes in the washing machine. We had them provided by the NHS continence service. They are a snug fit like “normal” y-fronts and pulled on and off in the same way. They absorb a surprising amount of urine without leaking. Estimated 500 mls. It’s unlikely your dad would wee more than a litre overnight meaning he’d just need one change between bedtime and morning.

These aren’t the ones we had but similar. I’ll attach the link to give you an idea what they’re like if you haven’t already seen them. Good luck and I hope you find a solution.

www.amazon.co.uk/Washable-Incontinence-Underwear-Reusable-Breathable/dp/B0BQBJ4886/ref=asc_df_B0BQBJ4886?mcid=26d7bd26252c3411be8c2444bae07ff3&tag=googshopuk-21&linkCode=df0&hvadid=718324826856&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=9907164735065052955&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=1007315&hvtargid=pla-2372001367399&psc=1&gad_source=1

PS to my earlier post. We had them supplied via the continence service but I’ve just checked the name of the manufacturer and it’s a UK company called P&S Healthcare. I hope it’s ok to name them here. I promise I’m not associated in any way with them other than we used their products successfully for many years.

www.pshealthcare.co.uk/mens/mens_night_time_briefs/195

You cab get waterproof pj bottoms that look like normal ones. Expensive and I guess you'd need 6 pairs for rotation in the wash.

You can get more absorbent nappy style pads from tena that should last him the whole night without having to be changed. Look up tena slips.