What to do about text?

[Greybottle]

My mother has no friends and the rest of her family has pulled away from her. She has no social life. No hobbies. One of her sisters wanted to meet with her twice over the past year and my mother issued lies and gave her the run around. I really thought she needed to get out and have some meet up or social contact.

So anyways,

One of my aunts sent me a text earlier today giving me a message to pass onto my mother. It's nothing about anyone else being ill or sick. It's a different message.

My initial reaction is one of anger but I didn't show it to my aunt. I think it's wrong getting me in the middle of this. I think the two of them should communicate together. My mother has a phone and there's no reason for my aunt to text me when she could have just texted my mother.

I don't know how to respond. Should I carry out my aunt's wishes and pass on a message? Or just be vague and redirect her to my mother.

No one can tell you without knowing why the text says.

If you do nothing, what will be the consequences?

What skin off your nose is it to just pass it on?

"Hi Aunt, please send this straight to mum rather than me. Her number is xxx. She'd appreciate hearing it directly from you. Thanks, Greybottle."

She's probably tried texting your mum. Would she reply?

@Greybottle its a tricky one. Our mother sounds similar to yours. I could write the first paragraph myself and it would sum up our situation.

Honestly from my own experience I would ask your aunt to contact your mother directly as PP suggested. Why? If your mother is anything like ours what she is doing is all about ‘control’. I have come to the conclusion that some people, and I mean at all ages not just elderly, need to control things and however odd we might see it we cannot impose our ideas of solutions on them. I have tried but it has made me ill as the sheer defiance of our mother is breathtaking. Yet she is miserable but will do nothing to engage with things to help herself. Good luck it’s a tricky place to be. Not to mention exhausting.