Best incontinence wear for men

[ArnieCh]

I'm trying to help my Dad. Increasingly he's having accidents and understandably he's in denial/ embarrassed. I suggested I get him some incontinence pants to try whenever he's ready, but is there a gold standard? If he has an accident, it's just to hold things in so it doesn't show through his trousers. He'd quickly get himself back to his flat to sort, so he wouldn't be in them for hours. Discrete/ thin/ comfy and that work if poss! I know about Tena, but I'm wondering if there's something a bit less bulky?

I don’t know about less bulky, but Boots is cheaper.

and think of pads instead of pants as they come in smaller (less absorbent) sizes.

The shops seem to have so many options for women and hardly any for men

Don't know about bulk but try confidence club, my teenager uses them and they are great value.

Has he had his prostate checked, or checked for UTI if incontinence come on recently?
Disposable underwear depends to some extent on whether he has urinary or faecal incontinence, or both. Probably best to go for pull up pants (they go up to XL waist) from Boots, with an extra pad for the front if needed, or Convene urinary catheters (put on like a condom with a small day time bag or bigger nightime one). Slips (as opposed to pull ups) are better for those who can't stand.

My ex was incontinent due to prostate issues. Pads/shields move around so probably won't do what you want. Pants are the way to go. The Depend brand were good.

My neighbour has a bladder problem, she gets pads on prescription.

My dad liked the Tena for men shields which were very neat and discreet

If he's leaking in bed or on the chair ... sounds terrible, but puppy pads do actually work. Cover with a throw if on chair.

Washable Kylie bed pads from Amazon are better than disposable too if he's having accidents at night.

A practical note re pants - they have a tear line down both sides for quick and clean removal. Took us months to realise that!

Nuisance with pants is you have to remove shoes and trousers to replace them

Brilliant of you all to post! It's been going on for a while now, but a prostrate check's a good idea. I don't think he's had one for a while. He's not having accidents at night, so that's a plus. His main issue is bad arthritis, so increasingly the urge to go is faster than his walking speed. It's not always just urine though, so pants seem like the way to go. Basically it's just something to give him confidence that if he doesn't get there in time it won't leak everywhere and show. I'll have a look at some of the brands mentioned and remember to tell him about the tear line too. Thank you though. It's lovely the way women chip in on this site. I very much appreciate it!

Enlarged prostate is very common in older men and can lead to leakage and accidents. Getting that checked and having a chat with his GP should be his first port of call. I'm afraid I can't help with incontinence wear.

Re: faecal incontinence - again his GP needs to know this, tests need to be done, etc.

Yes, I think a GP appt is wise too. I'll get that sorted. Thanks!

Request a visit from the continence nurse
They will have options to try and then they will be provided free of charge

The best incontinence pads are from a different website. I’ll try and find the details, but not sure I can.

Tena Direct Uk is the website