Moving parents near to us, different county

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My Dad is unwell in hospital at the minute, there has been a catalogue of errors which I won't go into but the short story is it seems he's had delirium caused by a number of relatively minor factors, which have collectively had a significant impact for an 80 year old.

I think he is close to being discharged, but their home is in a state of disrepair and really not suitable/safe.

I've discussed them moving from their home to live near to us in Northumberland (150 miles). We are very lucky in that we have space in our home to give them a temporary break and then have a property a mile away that they could move to into in a matter of weeks. My mum would come in a heartbeat and my dad would love to but is worried he's left it too late :(

OT are due to see him tomorrow to decide his care needs, I've already broached the subject of moving them with the hospital and of course need to make sure he is fit to travel. If he does need some care how would I go about organising this in my county? I've got some numbers so going to ring for advice tomorrow but any experience or advice would be appreciated.

Thank you 🙏

I think it sounds fine. Good plan.

The important thing is to register them with a new GP practice, and ideally only do that once. Is the house they would move to in the right area for your GP practice and do you trust them? I would go for the biggest practice you can, personally, but ideally one you trust. And whether you have POA or not, get your parents to write letters both to their old and their new GP saying that they are happy for the practice to discuss their health with you. That way you can help out if there are issues.

If you are concerned about what happened at the hospital during your Dad's current admission, contact PALS and see if he can have a printout of the full notes to take with him. It might take a long time to get but it could be helpful.

Also, the move itself will be exhausting beyond belief for your parents. Chuck money at it.

Your local Age UK and your council website will be helpful for info about services.

PermanentTemporary

Thank you that is good advice, they would be with my GP either at our house or their eventual new home. Good idea about getting them both to give permission, we are in the process of setting up POA they both have capacity at the minute so permission would be helpful.

I've had to involve pals so I'll ask about printing his record. Thanks!

We are in the process of moving PILs 200 miles which is no small feat! FIL has mixed dementia and went into a care home for respite care and it became apparent he just couldn't go home to MIL. He's moving to a care home round the corner from us next weekend. The care home has just asked for 2 weeks of medication and they will do the rest.

MIL completely fell apart on her own even with carers going in twice a day. We have a place in a flat in sheltered housing for her that's linked to FILs care home. We were trying to do the move in an organised way but DH ended up bringing MIL to stay with us on Thursday and she will go into the flat from here.

We already have a lot of contact with all the various agencies and so asked for advice on how to transfer everything over. MIL just has oldie tablets for blood pressure and statins so they are easy to deal with.

I would say make sure you have an end point. I'm happy to have MIL here but it's much easier to deal with the inevitable frustrations if you know it's only for a few weeks.

Morenicecardigans

I think we may be similar and just go for them as soon as he's out of hospital, pending what OT etc say.

I've spoken to my local council and it seems fairy straightforward to get them in their system here.

Good suggestion to have a longer term plan in place, we're on with that now. It's just the waiting to see what he will need. I feel like I have about 5 plans and have no idea which one it'll be!