Feeling sad about elderly mother

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No really sure where I'm going with this but am increasingly seeing my lovely mother get older and it makes me feel sad and a bit anxious for the future. Dad died nearly a year ago and it's knocked both of us understandably, me I guess because it brings home how short life is and now I get very fearful about losing mum too. For mum losing dad has made her really struggle with all the tasks he used to do online and she feels much more alone and her comfort zone is decreasing to do things and get out. I'm two hours away and see her as often as I can but I work and have two children so it's probably now only once every 2-3 weeks. She is still active and sociable and has friends thank his but I guess just going through photos it all reminds me how quickly life passes and I don't know how to make it slow down. I am dreading losing her too.

Hi, just wanted to offer some sympathy . I'm in a kind of similar position in that my Dad (98) is in hospital and isn't doing so well, and I'm worried that my 88-year-old mum won't be able to cope in the long term without him. She's already finding it all a bit overwhelming as, like yours, my dad always did all the online admin stuff whereas my mum is a technophobe. They lived independently and very happily until about a month ago when my dad had a massive fall and was admitted to hospital and since then has gone downhill. I can't imagine life without my parents either and what's going on now with dad is so upsetting for everyone. So just wanted you to know you're not alone and sending you hugs.

So sorry OP, just sending a hug 💐

I lost my parents in their 50's and 60's but we have recently lost FIL and MIL has gone into care with a complete inability to cope.
Absolutely everything practically and financially has been left to DH and SIL to sort. It's completely and utterly overwhelming at times. Increasing frailty and death is inevitable. Please make sure you have Power of Attorney. PIL's 'cross that bridge' mentality has now come home to roost and left a lot of ill feeling.

We bud, we flower, we wither. It's the way of nature.

It's easier for me to say this than for you to hear, because I'm at the withering end of my life.

It's sad, of course. But it's natural.

Your Mum has a wealth of memories, just as I do. Now I don't get about very well, I use those memories and really treasure them.

Don't be sad, use every moment you have with your Mum to create the memories you will 're visit when you too are old.

Thanks all for taking the time to reply and sorry to those also struggling with this issue.

A wise and imo comforting comment .

Beautiful, what beautiful words.
I love and of course will steal this.

@Brandnewskytohangyourstarsupon how nice of you to say so.

What a beautiful post @user1471453601

I’m going through similar OP. It’s so hard on the emotions isn’t it. You’re not alone with this 🌺