Eating disorder?

[NorthernGirlie]

I've posted before about my mum. We have a difficult relationship. She had a psychotic episode 6 months ago (history of mh problems) and has been declining since then. She's 75

She started to lose weight just after the episode and has had every test going as she said she couldn't swallow. Things came to a head tonight between her and dad so I went round to mediate. She's down to just over 6 stone.

She's been under the crisis team and now a psych. Is on top dose of sertraline for months but no improvement in mood.

She's accusing him 100s of times a day of having affairs etc. I'm 99% sure this is not true. She admitted tonight in anger She's been controlling her eating to stop him leaving. He has no intention of leaving but is at the absolute end of his tether.

I'm planning on ringing her named crisis nurse tomorrow but realistically what can be done for a 75 year old with what I suspect is anorexia?

Not being able to swallow is a side effect of some medications

She can swallow. She's had scans, x rays, speech and language therapist... she admitted to controlling her eating to punish dad.

It sounds like it's part of her paranoia why she's doing it. Was she never offered anti psychotics ?

Did the crisis nurse have anything useful to offer?

It sounds as if she's rapidly heading towards a psychiatric admission.

So your father is the victim of domestic abuse and you are focusing on how you can make his abuser happier?

I think you need to take a long hard think about how distorted the whole dynamic has become.

What ideally should happen is that you help your father escape from her, and let her get on with it. She has deliberately done this (of course she has! She’s abusive), so the method is the same as with all others. Leave and never engage with them again.

@MoveToParis I've begged him to come and stay with me. He won't. Psych and psych nurse are threatening forced hospital admission which we are all desperate to see.

We thought that would happen yesterday as she had dangerously low sodium levels but she was 1 point over the 125 limit

Psychiatrist wants to start anti psychotics next week but needs another blood test and a heartbroken first.

We're trying - we really are. We're all out of our depths though