My mother needs a new appliance

[Mynameisspiral]

My mothers tumble dryer broke down. I will have to replace this promotly or she will continue to use it anyways. The drum is not spinning and there's a smell that's not too great. My mother is in her early 70s and for the past 2-3 years there has been a load of 'what in the holy name of fucking hell is this' kind of moments.

I reckon she has dementia but it's not presenting typically with forgetfulness but it's behavioural and mood and waning comprehension and poor spacial awareness. I chatted to her and our GP because we attend the same practice but I got nowhere regarding a diagnosis. It seems as if even GPs want a typical textbook style of forgetfulness to even consider dementia or a referral to the hospital.

Anyways my mother knows the tumble dryer is out of action but she will continue to use it anyways.

I will have e to replace this promptly or it's going to be a fire hazard. I'm going away next week and I don't feel comfortable going away when the tumble dryer is like that.

I was browsing online for tumble dryers. My mother wants to maintain control of it. I found a tumble dryer from an electrical shop in the city but that was the first option. I found another tumble dryer in another shop that is much closer. It's also less expensive and it has a cheaper delivery cost and also because we live close by delivery will be quicker. Basically this second option is 340 pounds and I can get it by Tuesday. However my mother is being stubborn and she wants to buy the one in the city and altogether it's going to be 420 pounds. But she doesn't have a bank account and it will be my card that will be charged. I have the money in my account however the cheaper alternative will be better for me. My mother thinks it's just like you order it online and pay cash at the door and it's not like that.

How will I be able to manage this and get her to see sense and get the cheaper alternative that's close to home. I don't have a car so I can't drive her.

You can get the company to install it too - I know there's not much to it with a tumble dryer but it was a lot easier getting someone strong and experienced to haul the old one out, get the new one in and adjust the feet so it was level than do it myself!

Just tell her it is the model and ordered from the shop she wanted - turns out they do same day delivery after all!
Or say they have an agreement with the local store to act on their behalf in your town?!

I got it sorted. I went to the online shop where my mother wanted and I added the appliance into my cart this morning and then I left the site. I was emailed a code for free delivery so it brought the cost down to 399.

I can't believe how my mother is so difficult and won't compromise though. She's so awkward.

I second what this poster says. OP, I recognise you from many, many posts you have made about your mother under a variety of names over the past year or so.

Maybe you find it helpful just to come on here and vent about her, but you don't seem to follow any of the advice you are given about her suspected dementia, and it really does not seem to be a healthy living situation for you.

Are you living with your mother out of financial necessity? If not, I agree you should move out and then it will become clearer to her GP, social services and so on if she is not capable of looking after herself.