DM on end of life pathway

[Witchlite]

DM is on end of life pathway. Fully dosed up on massive doses of painkillers and anti psychotics as she has stage 7 Alzheimer’s mixed with vascular dementia and broken bones. Absolutely no hope of recovery - but it’s taking so long. She can’t eat or drink as aspirates all by mouth. We spent hours trying to get food into her before this last fall, yet it’s been 9 days.

Totally soul destroying, we’ve (her children) read to her, played music and just talked about everything and nothing. she doesn’t respond. Hardly surprising the level of drugs. I’m note sure it helps her, but it makes us feel slightly more useful.

just how long?

Absolutely not wicked at all.

I feel for you so much, I was where you are just two years ago with DM.

She lived for 8 days without food or water and died very very peacefully on the 9th. I was by her side with my dad and I was honoured to be there. We'd cared for her for 2 years - she knew she was dying and wanted to die at home. We made this happen for her but it was utterly exhausting and relentless.

Be as kind to yourself as you can be, it won't be long now, take comfort that you've had the time to say all that you'd like and you're with her.

Sending love and strength x

I just thought I’d pop back. Well it was 14 days! DM died on Saturday- she had been completely quiet and peaceful for the last 6 days, but her breathing changed on Friday.

Over in two weeks. It seemed forever, but was such a short time in the span of one of the bxxxdy, fxxxing illnesses that there is. She’s not scared, hurting or hurting us any more.

The end.

My thanks yo the people who responded to my original post. You can have no idea how much that support helped at such a low point.

I get to move on from this forum, to do the sadmin and start to grieve.

thank you xxx

I'm so sorry for your loss OP ❤️❤️❤️

So sorry for your loss. Nothing can prepare you for the ordeal of watching and waiting for a loved one to die. Be kind to yourself and take your the time that you need. ❤️

So sorry for your loss, at least she is at peace now x sending hugs 🫂 💐 🙏

Thanks for the update OP.

May you all be at peace now, sending big hugs and support to you all xx

@Witchlite
I'm sad for your loss, but I know you actually lost your mum a long time ago. I hope you can give yourself time to grieve and recover

Sad for the loss; but peace at last.