Hello,
Our elderly father has become shockingly unable to do any basic tasks for himself.
He lives an hour and a half away from all of us (he’s children) always has done since breaking up with our mum 30 years ago.
He lives in an elderly complex with bungalows. He’s 81 and is really struggling to walk. He basically shimmy’s along and can’t cook clean Or do any basic tasks himself anymore. He’s been trying to cover it for a long time but it has become very scary and upsetting to see. He’s bungalow is extremely dirty. He can’t wash properly or walk hardly at all. He’s been slowly declining, but I saw him for the first time in 8 weeks and I couldn’t believe how bad it’s become.
He has now openly admitted how bad he’s struggling and needs our help (first time ever, I don’t think he ever wanted too before)
can anyone talk me through the quickest way I could potentially get him closer to us all ? He is already under the council. So we can help him and do all he’s basic chores, cook and clean and shopping etc for him. He doesn’t have anyone Where he lives but a few friends that are elderly too. Does anyone know the timeline usually ? I have seen there is an option which they can do it under an ‘emergency’ but I’m not sure if this qualifies ?
It’s heartbreaking and we just want him near us. He’s never wanted to move but has finally accepted it’s for the best so we can all be easily accessible and see him as much as we can.
thanks for your help