My mother has a diagnosis of mixed matter dementia.
She lives in her own home with 4 visits from carers a day and
Me or my sibling visit everyday. (We have a rotating)
She also has hairdresser visits twice per week and a cleaner once per week.
She has a podiatrist 6 weekly and a beautician monthly.
She has zero appreciation for this excellent set up. We take her out 1-2 times per week. Quite often she refuses to go out saying she's too tired.
Recently her carers have had a reshuffle and have changed. They still come same
Frequency and same
Time but are new people. Upsetting I know. But she's really acting
Up. Refusing food and meds of some of the "softer" ladies. Refuses to wash or get dressed.
Lying on her sofa al day with a towel under her so she doesn't need to rush to the loo.
She has low control on her bladder and bowels and is unsteady on her feet using a rolator to walk.
I'm getting phone calls from the cleaner and carers all worried because she is not co operating
And is very depressed.
She has a long long history of (acting up) when things don't go her way.
I see how she must feel out of control and down with the new carers. I'm just not sure what I can do
About it. She has no appreciation for having a good set up at home. She will
Often say "just put me
In a home I'm a burden" even
Thought we try so hard to do everything she wants so she doesn't feel like a burden
Is there a respite facility available? I wonder would a week or two in a home
Help her realise her life isn't as bad as she thinks.
She's very emotionally manipulative and we are exhausted running after her and sorting
Our own lives too.
Any advice?