Really struggling with my elderly mum

[Ellen56490]

Hi,
Mum is 75 it's just me and her,we live together.
I'm really struggling with her at the moment. My mum says everything is fine and she doesn't have any problems. But I think she needs help, I'll say something to her and she forgets,I have to tell her a few times, she asks the same question multiple times and gets upset if I tell her.
She also gets lost in shops that she knows really well and that we've been to for years but she'll always have an excuse as to why, but still expects me to go as she's worried to Go alone. She'll never admit something is wrong though.
She can't do anything alone, I have to go everywhere with her Drs, shopping everything. She went to get a present from a chemist that we've been going to for years the other day and made me wait outside.

She also gets anxious about random things like thinking she hasn't drank enough water or if she's had eaten too much or not enough.

She even asks me lf she can do stuff eg- take a rubbish bag out to the bin

I can't even go and see friends anymore because when I did she'd panic about Knock on neighbours doors upset. I'm just stuck with my mum 24/7

I'm really struggling at the moment and I'm feeling really depressed and hopeless, I have no help or anything.

What can I do?

I'm currently getting universal credit and I'm looking for a job. I don't get carers allowance as my mum isn't diagnosed with anything

I have recently contacted adult social services. But I know my mum will lie and say everything is fine what can I do ?

Am I just stuck unless she tells them the truth?

Am I just stuck in this hopeless situation?

I think your first step has to be to get her in to a GP appointment on some pretext. Let the GP know your concerns in advance, particularly repeating the same question multiple times and getting lost in familiar places. The hope is that the GP will take it from there in terms of a comprehensive evaluation to determine the cause of the difficulties.

We've had the same issue with in-laws. Agree with the above - arrange a meeting and take her but give them info in advance of what's been happening. The doctor will ask the questions and test her - questions such as date and time, months backwards and count to 20. Also get her tested for a UTI. The waiting list for the memory clinic is long though. We've also spoken to Admiral Nurses for advice. They were really good and gave us a list of things to action.