Seeking the wisdom of the Mumsnet community.
I live in New Zealand with partner and young children, 5 and 2. I emigrated many years ago and I have no intention of returning - in part because my husband is the main earner and his job is here.
My parents back in the UK are struggling. My dad (66) seems to have some cognitive decline. He has almost no short term memory, and keeps getting lost and confused. He's even been picked up by the police who have taken him to hospital. Mum (70) is still working as she has little pension savings. She's understandably finding his behaviour very difficult and is devastated by the situation.
I'm at a total loss for what to do next and how to help from a distance. No siblings so it's just me. No family nearby. They live in a rural community which is pretty friendly but they do have to drive everywhere.
I don't know if there's any money to pay for care. My dad gets a reasonable pension and he's never seems to spend much money. Mum seems to pay for everything from her small wage. Mum and Dad have never had joint finances so nobody knows how much money he has or where it might be.
I have so many questions and I'm doing so much handwringing. But I guess I need to start with questions if you're with me this far?! How do you get a diagnosis for this type of stuff and how long does it take? And how can you get a unwilling/incapable parent to divulge their finances, so you can help them out (or more importantly, help out the other parent)?
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Please advise! Parents are falling apart and I don't know how to help
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OnePearlGuide · 26/03/2024 06:53
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