Help me through the coming weeks with my elderly mother.

[Tolkienista]

My 95 year old mother had a fall at home on Saturday, I found her. She lives alone.....very independent, good health, no dementia, but she's fallen. She's currently in hospital being assessed.
I'm one of her three daughters. I live very close, see her around five times a week, do lots for her, spend quality time with her too & I know I'm massively jumping the gun but could they discharge her home without a care package if her mobility is likely to be a major issue? She's massively slowed down in recent months & now lacks confidence in getting around.

I've got a feeling my siblings will imply "as you're recently retired, could you stay with her at the start (including staying overnight) to help out, build up her confidence". I just don't want to go down that route, I think it would massively impact my mental as well as my physical health & would be impractical.

As I said, I'm over thinking things at the moment, I've been awake for the last two hours, its 5 am & in reality we'll all get together & realise its time for residential care.

What do I say to my siblings and their spouses to take myself out of this scenario of ending up moving in with her for (just) a few days?

@Hector95 your post really resonated with me so raw are your words and emotions. We've got much more proactive & assertive in the last couple of days and are now on a path where we've said we're fire fighting this week and it looks like help is on its way.

Keep fighting and pushing @Tolkienista we’re with you.

On Thursday my father took himself off by bus to a chiropody appointment, then did some shopping and visited his bank on the way home. On Monday he’d lost the ability to bear his own weight and was telling me about the male voice choir who had been decanted from a coach at 2am in his residential cul-de-sac and kept him awake with their singing.

He improved, but not quite back to his previous level.

The decline isn’t necessarily smooth. It can go in fits and starts.

Your Mum does sound pretty good for a 95 year old if she can walk with just a walking stick after a fall.

My Mum needed a walking frame and a riser/recliner chair for the last 3 or 4 years of her life, but she was able to live pretty independently at home (carers coming a few times a week to help her shower) for all but the final year when she lived in a really nice care home. She went there after a fall at home and losing her confidence.

What I'm saying is, maybe it's not inevitable that your mother needs to go to a care home immediately OP?

@LindorDoubleChoc thanks for the positivity in your post, that's really lovely to read. It's very early days, but we remain more in shock at how quickly our lives have been transformed since last Saturday.
We took her for an appointment today to assess the changes that will be made in her home. A week ago you'd never have known that a 95 year old woman lived there.
She loves her home, she's lived there since 1963, so so many memories.

@MereDintofPandiculation that is really interesting. None of us feel that she's going to be back to anywhere near the mobility she had before last Saturday, but if she did reclaim some of that mobility that would be great.

@thesandwich thank you for your lovely message......you fight for those you love and she is loved and respected in abundance.