How to support DPs father in France?

[OneLemon]

Hi All - unsure where to post this, apologies if I'm in the wrong place!

DP's father lives in France, we live in the UK. He's recently had some heart issues, and has been in and out of hospital.

He lives in a really remote part of France, and lives alone.

DP has been unable to get through to him for the most part recently, and has been communicating with his father's neighbours. They've been saying he is very confused (I'm thinking this could potentially be hospital delirium but who knows), and asking if DP is going to put him in a home/come over etc.

We essentially have no money, currently rent (with no spare bedroom to offer), & jobs that are keeping us in the UK.

I want to support DP, but we're both a bit stuck on what to do.

We need to figure out the available options, but grateful if anyone has any suggestions/advice on how we could support, any France specific organisations or policies that may be relevant, or what you'd do/have done in a similar situation.

Just absolutely no idea how to handle a situation like this!

TIA.

TLDR: How to support severely unwell father who lives alone in rural france?

is he french? how long has he been out there?

your partner needs to visit. asap

Is he a French or UK citizen, has your dp spoken with the hospital

yes some pretty key info is missing op

Your DO needs to get over there, even if it means taking unpaid leave and using a Credit Card.

Unless you're missing out some info like he has other family in France?

He should go over for a week to figure out how his DF really is. Any decisions can be made after that.

I'd call or email his GP immediately. S/he will know more about things if he was referred to cardiology, and perhaps point you in the right direction and give advice for the next steps.

He either has private health insurance as a non resident, or has health cover as a resident of France, or reciprocal emergency care under the health card scheme that replaced the EHIC.

That's a start and hopefully you will find out more for now, but long term his son needs to get over there to advocate for his father. Are there other siblings about?

OP do you or your DP speak French? You'll need to access the local services for your area and find out what services they have locally. There's funding available depending on what the issues are, there's simulators on this plus list of agencies that can help
https://www.service-public.fr/particuliers/vosdroits/R54933

Navigating this will be tricky if you don't speak French though. If he doesn't then you'll need to see if any expat communities nearby who may be able to help

Is he French?
Is your DP French?

First thing your DP needs to do is get out there and see his father. Does he have any other siblings? Do any of them speak French? He can ask advice at the Marie wherever his dad lives - they should be able to point him in the direction of assistants sociale who will give advice of what benefits, assistance he is eligible for. A lot will depend on his status - does he have French nationality, how long has he lived / worked there etc. Also his financial situation. He also needs to be in touch with his father’s doctor (médecin traitant) and any specialists that are treating him.

In France, children are legally obliged to be involved in arranging and paying for the care and upkeep of their parents (though it’s not something that is often pursued abroad)