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Elderly parents

Are there any affordable homecare options?

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Elderlyaupairquestion · 31/12/2023 21:30

Does anyone have advice on alternative homecare options? Particularly something similar to an adult au pair for elderly care where someone could be around in case they are needed, including occasional help with cleaning up accidents and changing underwear in the night.

My dad has mid-stage dementia and wears a catheter and is occasionally incontinent now with frequent toilet accidents. He is very easygoing and currently prefers to spend a lot of time in bed or sitting on an armchair.

He has carers coming in 3 times a day and currently my brother and myself take turns in looking after him for long periods. We live at different ends of the country though, so we really want to find someone who can stay semi-permanently to look out for him and help him with toilet trips (while the carers still drop in 3 times a day and my brother and I do more ad-hoc shorter visits).

We're hoping someone might be happy to do this for free accommodation, free food, maybe around £1000 a month and be able to still have a part-time morning job (or even work from home for another company), but have an ear out for our dad when needed. And ideally cook dinner for him and eat with him several times a week and keep him company.

My question is, has anyone got any experience of doing something similar?
We're just starting to look into this and have no idea where we can advertise, if this is even a possibility and how to get started.

We've had quotes from agencies which were completely unaffordable for us unfortunately. But we're desperate for any ideas or advice on this.

I'd really appreciate any advice from anyone who has done something similar and managed to make this work?

OP posts:
mummeeee · 02/01/2024 06:34

Hi

I'm in a Facebook group called 'private live in/out care jobs Uk'

This might be a good place to look and ask.

www.facebook.com/share/tsMdawaLN6S6fhp8/?mibextid=K35XfP

mummeeee · 02/01/2024 06:38

Sorry, on my phone and wasn't sure the link would work, so didn't want to write a long message and have it fail!

I have no experience of elderly care but I do employ a live out carer via CHC payments for my daughter to help her to become independent with some medical needs (attend residential school trips with her) etc. The carer has other jobs supporting elderly people in their own homes and charges an hourly rate. I know it's not quite what you're looking for, but I know she does a lot of cooking, companionship etc, so perhaps there is someone local to you who might be able to offer what you need.

GreyDayGrey2 · 02/01/2024 13:26

Have you put in a claim for attendance allowance for your DF, it is not means tested ?

I know someone who does this type of work
Where are you located in UK ?

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