FIL has just died. MIL now alone in the care home

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Not sure what I want from this thread really. Has anyone else been in this situation?

We are on the last day of our silver wedding holiday and have just taken a call to say that FIL has died. It was expected, he had late stage mesothelioma but is still awful knowing that we can't be there for 2 days.

They were in the care home together in a mini suite. Both have dementia of different types. MIL is cognitive in the moment but can't remember yesterday.

The problem is that she is now going to have to move out of the suite into a solo room. It seems awful after just losing her husband it was 2 bedrooms with one used as a sitting room instead. Obviously we can't afford to pay for an extra room.

Has anyone been in this situation and how did it work out?

Oh I'm so sorry.

Not this situation but my mum has been moved twice at her nursing home and has not seemed at all affected by it. Is your MIL likely to remember that FIL has died?

@PermanentTemporary I'm not sure. I hope that she will but she could never remember our discussions about how ill he was. She kept saying he was putting it on. She has been cross with him for the past few years, though she can't remember why. However she couldn't settle if we took her for a coffee and he wasn't there. I think it is going to be hard.

However I'm reassured that your mum has coped with room changes. Hopefully MIL will do too.