My mum is 81. She's still very active and lovely, has a full social life and lives alone in her own house. Which involves a boat trip to get to.
We do need to sort out POA and have that in plan. And realistically she needs to sell up and move. But that is a long term plan we are working on.
I live 4-ish hours from the port and my sister is about 5-6 hours away. It's not ideal but neither of us can move to where she is, not at the moment, anyway.
Mum just has the two of us, there is no husband/partner to consider.
So far, so normal.
Mum has ALWAYS been very much 'if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.' She's not a bitch. She's not generally critical of others. She's kind and thoughtful and generous-spirited. Fair.
But my sister has noticed that recently mum has been really...unkind. Mean. Aggressive, almost. Both about others and to my sister herself. And has apparently no recognition that what she's saying is unkind or thoughtless or mean.
And frankly this deeply concerns me. It's just not her. It never has been.
She definitely needs a hearing assistance of some kind. Maybe she mishears and responds to what she thinks is being said. And yet. It's just not her she's never been one for bitching. She just hasn't.
Am I overthinking this?
Or am I right that something which feels like a major personality change is something we should be concerned about?
I don't want my lovely mother to become an angry aggressive person. I really don't. And I don't know how to approach this with her.
Any words of wisdom would be so very gratefully received...