Care homes and christmas

[Wildblood]

Trying to decide what to do for the best, mum has recently gone into a care home, she is approximately 30 minutes away from my sister and I. We're trying to decide what to do for Christmas, neither of us have a downstairs toilet and she can't do stairs even with help.
At the moment just all going to see her at the care home seems like the best idea, but also feels cruel, do most people get taken out for Christmas day? Presumably the home make a fuss and have a nice meal etc.

Any experience or ideas please. Thanks

Depends totally on the individual. We all had a meal at a pub because it was wheelchair accessible. But dad wasn't at all confused and could get in and out of a car with help.
If it is a positive experience I think having a family meal is much nicer. You can also hire commodes from the Red Cross.

@whiteroseredrose could you take MIL out for a drive? We used to do this with my dad when he wanted to get out of the home, but could no longer cope with going places. We would drive by places he remembered when younger and to see Christmas lights. Not for long. Half an hour and then he was tired and ready to be back in the home.

We took the grandparents out at Christmas the first year, by year 2 covid had struck and then we lost them. If you can and the distance is doable i would pick up to arrive at the house 20-30 mins before lunch, then do gifts then take back.

For dsd we do take her out of her care home for 2 nights, it's hard work, means no alcohol for one of us as we need to be able to both drive and give meds but she deserves it, we can have fun any time - my parents are good too and help us give her a good traditional Christmas