Washable adult diapers

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We need some for my dad, but I've never looked into this before. Are there any particular good or bad ones, please?

If your dad is in the UK, tell your mum to contact his gp. They will refer him to the continence service who will provide them free.
Until then, but in bulk from Amazon. A months supply cost me £45. I buy my own because I have very sensitive skin that reacts to any brand appart from tenna

You need to get in touch with the continence team, likely though his GP or if he has one his district nurse.

Thank you so much for all the advice everyone, it's enormously helpful. Hopefully things will get a bit easier for a while, until the next hurdle presents itself.

If you have an Aldi take a look in there as when I looked for my mum they were a third of the price of Tenas.

I hope you've managed to make contact with the Continence Team. Has he got Attendance Allowance to help to pay for the pads and extra washing?

Has your DM had a Carer's Assessment?

They live rurally and my mum gets my sister to do online orders from Tesco. Don't know if there's an Aldi anywhere near them but will find out. What's the quality of the Aldi ones?

They have a home-assessment with a social worker coming up, so hopefully that will be the opportunity to explore all the options, but it's very useful to have all the things you and other posters have pointed out and I'm grateful for that.

It's a tough time of life isn't it. Me in my 60s, with increasingly frail parents who don't live nearby. My dad is 88 and has often said that he didn't expect to live this long, mainly because he contracted polio as a teenager and has been disabled since then. There are regular crises and then he miraculously gets better, but every time it happens the difficulties notch up another slot 😟

Sorry if I keep offering unwanted advice.

I would very much try and be there when they meet the SW. if it's anything like any of the oldies I've dealt with they will minimise the difficulties that they are experiencing and massively understate the assistance that they need, probably because they are terrified if one of them being placed in a Care Home.

Ironically though, the lord help they can get now, the better chance they have if remaining together at home.

Do they currently have the basics like a cleaner and a gardener?

All advice is welcome!

I can't be there when the SW visits as I don't live nearby and have to go to work, but one of my brothers should be able to be there as he works from home, so can work at their place for the day.

Staying at home together is a priority for both of them. My dad did need to go into a nursing home for a few weeks after the latest incident and he quickly became a shell of himself. Both of them were miserable. The set up now is a hospital bed downstairs, hoist, commode and all the rest. We got him an electric wheelchair last year which has made a huge difference to them both. There are also ramps in and around the house for access.

You're right that they've been hugely understating the help they need and there's been a lot of 'Oh, we'll manage!' when it's abundantly clear that they're not. Hence getting the electric wheelchair after my mum finally admitted how bad her knees and back are. To add to everything, my poor old dad has dementia and whilst he remembers things from long ago, comes across coherently in conversation and can still do crosswords, his short term memory is shot. This means he simply forgets how hard my mum and the rest of the family are working. Five minutes after he's eaten, he can't remember what he had. He doesn't remember our visits either.

Yes, thankfully they have a cleaner and a gardener. They live in a small village and the neighbours are also enormously supportive.

Exactly the same as the Tena ones.

Thanks, that's certainly worth looking into. I do hope though, as others have said upthread, that it will be possible to get him supplied via prescription.