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Stretched so thin...

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Lucy304 · 15/09/2023 18:26

Mum is 75 and, up until this summer, has been independent. She's recently had some health problems so we've been helping a lot more. She's now been declared medically fit to drive again, but is choosing not to. So me and DH are still doing all her errands/ shopping/ appointments etc.
We also both work, and have a very young family (a baby and a preschooler).
Long story short, I am struggling to keep up with it all. I went round and took Mum food shopping after work this evening, but she's just rang and asked for another lift tomorrow. DH is working so it would mean taking the kids with me, the older one is full of cold and we could just all do with a steady day. I nearly cried down the phone.
I really need to tell Mum it's all getting a bit much. She could help by starting to drive a bit, or finding out about taxis/ buses near her, or perhaps asking another family member or friend to help out on occasion.
I want to say something, but I feel awful and don't want her to feel abandoned. Any advice? Feeling like a completely crap daughter, wife and mother right now...

OP posts:
senparents · 23/09/2023 20:50

She could get a taxi instead ? She sounds selfish

fetchacloth · 23/09/2023 21:04

thinkfast · 15/09/2023 19:05

Just say you can't go tomorrow as kids are ill and DH is working. Simple. She can drive or get a cab.

This really. If you become ill yourself, then what happens?

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