What do I do in this incident

[Pinkyandtheose]

My mother is early 70s. For the past 18 months I noticed some behaviours from her that is somewhat off and it's vague and subtle. Just little things here and there. Not really a forgetfulness. I have a long list of observations from the past 18 months. Just stuff that seems off. One big thing is confusing items of clothing and who owns what even though we have different clothes and sizes. Eavesdropping, snooping, angry explosions over very little.

There seems to be an increase in behaviours.
Over the past few weeks there has been unusual purchases from her.

Her diet is absolutely trash and is so limited. There's very little fruit and vegetables.

Her GP found high cholesterol a few years ago and she refused medicine in favour of reducing the cholesterol naturally through the diet. She got me to research it online but all she did was complain about everything and she never took it seriously.

Then yesterday she went to the local village. She is still reasonably independent and she likes to walk. She came home with a fancy bottle of serum from la Roche Posay. It was a 10ml serum. She made purchases in recent weeks for some face creams and lotions and I found it unusual when she has another new bottle when she was always wary about spending too much and her sensitive skin. I asked her about the new bottle. She said there was a box of them in the pharmacy with a sign saying sample and so she took took of them. When I checked online, it was 20 pounds and I find it unusual that something like that would be free. I would think maybe 2 or 3 ml in a sachet could be free perhaps. I asked her for more information and she didn't even ask any assistant to double check. She just pocketed two of them.

I have a reason to suspect maybe she shoplifted these items. Now shoplifting would imply she knows what she's doing but I think she's losing her mind.

I chatted to her doctor last year but I was never told what the outcome of her appointment was.

Do I go into the pharmacy and talk to them? Double check about the product? If it was free or not. If she took them without paying, should I pay for them? I called into the pharmacy today and I did see a box of little things but it looks like maybe promotional stuff. I didnt see a price on them or any free sample on the box. I find it odd how a 10ml bottle of serum can be free when often they can be expensive.

I wonder would the pharmacist phone the GP and notify them of that behaviour on his premises. I think it would be good if I could get another voice in here for me.

Should I go back to the doctor with my list of observations and off behaviours?

I feel like I can't sit down with my mother and tell her my concerns with her being rageful.

Her diet could be a lot worse. Although the GP can't share info with you it's fine for you to share information with them. I'd put it in writing via email to the GP practice and ask for acknowledgment that a GP has read it and put the email on the medical records.

Sounds very similar to my grandmas diet for the last q- years of her life - she was 101 when she died of old age.
Please do not photograph or film your DM, that’s a gross invasion of her privacy. Also, do not present your HP with a PDF of notes about her when you call for your own appointment. When I became concerned about my own DM, I actually spoke to the receptionist at the surgery and she told me to put it in writing and it would be passed to the GP.
Then a few days following that, the receptionist phoned my DM and she was invited in for a check up. I actually took her but my DM asked me to stay in the waiting room, then she came out and literally ran out of the building! Apparently the Gp wanted to take some blood to test her iron levels and she left whilst the GP went for the equipment. I know she spoke to the GP several times after that but refused to go back.
You can’t force your Dm to see a doctor.

Have you posted about her before? Something rings a bell.
If you can still get power of attorney for her, I urge you to do it (though she would still have to be deemed to have capacity in order for this to happen). Believe me, life is SO much easier with POA in place.
Also, if your GP is anything like the ones in my experience, prepare to be fobbed off a few times regarding dementia concerns. It took several times of taking my relative to the GP before they actually referred to the memory clinic.