The lockdowns in covid really propelled my fathers dementia. Suddenly, after these lockdowns my family realised and df got rapidly worse since then. Now over the past year my elder sibling has become power of attorney. But the rest of the family including my step mother, are not talking to me. They seem to blame me for his decline but I don’t understand why. Just before she ceased all contact my Step mother said ‘these past couple of years have been hell’ and looked at ME with such disgust. I haven’t caused this. I don’t know why they’ve chosen me as their object of blame but how do I cope with this on top of having to come to terms with my father having dementia.
I think the reason they blame me is because my father has fixations on things and for the past year he’s been fixated with my son being a failure. He talks about it all time. My son isn’t a failure, he has a good job and he’s kind. I’m proud of him but my father forgets this and keeps contacting me to say how disappointed he is in my ds. It’s so hard. My family seem to take what my father says to them, over the truth. Maybe because they don’t want to believe df has dementia. I now have no one really apart from my own children and dh. I had quite a big family before.