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pushmina · 01/07/2023 17:22

I just had my 4th baby and had to stay in hospital for 3 days because I have really bad shortness of breath however I’m much better now and have recovered back home.

so my problem is my mum has come over to stay and help out which of course I appreciate but she interferes in my marriage constantly feeding my husband that’s she needs to do this that and the other she’s not organised where’s the food help your husband why do you give her this amount of money where we should shop and so on and just tries to cuase a stir between me and him.I already have low self esteem and they always talk in a condescending way like I don’t know how to look after my house or kids my husband respects her which of course it’s a good thing I have no problem with that but the problem I have is that he agrees to everything she says and well my options don’t count everything she says is spot on because she’s elder I need to change I can’t look after the house properly I’m not a good enough wife housewife or mother I just feel it a lot my mum previously did this before I told her to stop she doesn’t listen today I told her that stop interfering she says to me how dare you talk to your mother like that and I’m a bitch.

m I feel my husband treats me like shit like I’m lazy can’t do anything I’m just sick of it I feel as if I’m the crazy one.

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heldinadream · 01/07/2023 17:41

Get this moved to relationships. The problem is that your husband doesn't have your back. He's the problem.
Congrats on your baby OP.

pushmina · 01/07/2023 18:49

I don’t know if he has my back or not but all I know if he didn’t he wouldn’t agree to everything she says and then question me on everything he seems 2 faced person although for him he said no it’s because I respect my elders they are more important.

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Alway1insomethingstat · 01/07/2023 18:50

Sorry, your mom?? Or his mom???

pushmina · 01/07/2023 19:03

My mom

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Alway1insomethingstat · 01/07/2023 19:06

pushmina · 01/07/2023 19:03

My mom

ouch. Tell her to know her place. She can say stuff to you but meddling in your relationship is a no no.
your husband needs to wake up too.
congrats on the baby, this is the last thing you need x

pushmina · 01/07/2023 19:12

I have but it goes in one ear at out the other she’s mom so she can say and do what she wants and if I say something then I’m disrespectful which my husband won’t like because he respects his elders a lot he takes advice from her about everything who am I to say something to be honest I have no interest in talking to him anymore because I feel undervalued not appreciated for anything I do and all my mom does is take his side so I have had enough.

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ThatFraggle · 01/07/2023 19:14

You need her right now for the birth. But after that look for ways to minimize her presence in your life.

pushmina · 01/07/2023 19:16

And if he’s getting all the help from her then I’m sorry I don’t need to deal with him I will be distancing myself from him.

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