Now its my mums turn 😥

[Ilikewinter]

Please bear with me, im just venting. 18 months ago we lost MIL to cancer, it was a totally shit few years. Just getting life back to normal and my DM has suddenly been diagnosed with a rare blood cancer. Given 3-6 months if chemo doesnt work and even of it does theres no guarantees. My DB is heartbroken, my DH doesnt know what to say, its bought so many feelings back to the surface. Ive had a good cry and gone into practical mode - which it appears I do whenever I find something stressful. I live 3 hours away from my DM so will only be able to see her at the weekends. I realised when MIL as ill just how difficult it would be living away from my family and had thought about moving closer to home, but this cancer has come so fast its now too late for me to 'future plan'. My DM is only in her 60's.
I cant believe we are going through this again so soon. I fucking hate cancer.

So sorry to hear this.

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@Oigetoffmylawn @Littlemissprosecco, thank you both

So sorry to read your post , life is cruel 💐💐

I’m so sorry you lost your MiL and now this on top. Practical mode is a the best mode to be in, I think, as it means you can function (sobbing as you drive along the motorway won’t help, from experience!).

It's a huge shock, I remember a close relative’s diagnosis with multiple myeloma shortly after I lost my dad to cancer. I felt that I might have not noticed my relative becoming unwell, because I was distracted by my grief. It took me a while to realise that was an unreasonable reaction. But it is hard, when it’s just year after year of watching a loved one suffer and worrying you’ll lose them.

Having said that some of my best memories of family members are ones where I spent time with them whilst they were unwell.

i never take a moment for granted these days (my mum dropped dead with no warning) so make the most of your precious time, and take care of yourself too.