Anybody else feel like parents getting more difficult and demanding as they age?

[SurreyLB]

Just wondering if any others have faced similar situations. DH and I happy with one DD, working hard and doing our best to enjoy a fulfilling family and work life. My parents now in their 60's and 70's do not live close by. As they get older they become more and more needy and dont seem to have much else going on in life. I feel like me and my family are the only things my parents focus on which makes me really sad and I feel a lot of pressure because of this.

I want them to enjoy this part of their lives,not worry or think about me all the time! Is this normal as parents age?

That's scary - DH and I are in our 60's! I hope we are not yet becoming more needy and demanding. Mind you we have five kids so easy enough to spread the demands amongst them!

While my dad was still driving he was still willing to run round after me and the children even though I kept it to a bare minimum. At the time he died mum had been in a wheelchair for 10 years so was already quite needy and losing him meant that all the care fell on me.

I really hope that my kids have another 20 years or so before having to worry about what happens to us! Having said that our two sons recently wandered round the house planning what they would do to the place to make it into a holiday home for them all so they may have plans to bump us off before then!

Yes! My mother demands a weekly visit. She says I "owe" it to her :/

She's quite nasty sometimes and she'll threaten "no contact" at the slightest thing...I don't think I owe much at all and am currently aiming for once every 2 weeks.

She refuses to do anything nice for herself and says stuff like "this is probably my last ever holiday at my age" or keeps giving me stuff "well I don't need this anymore. You have it"

"There's no point in learning a new hobby"

the guilt trippy nastiness is tiresome. My in laws at 70 were out travelling, going out to theatres and out for dinner.

It’s normal if you have children that they remain important to you. Can you seriously imagine a time when your DC is no longer one of the most important things in your life?