I’m not sure where to put this thread but will have a go here. It’s quite complicated!
PIL are early 80s, MIL is recovering from pancreatic cancer, (she has sadly recently been called in for scans as she has found some lumps around her body) FIL has Parkinson’s. My BIL had a stroke 5 years ago and last year separated from his partner and against all our advice they let him move in with them. (I’ve never liked my BIl and my DH can’t stand him either, he is/was a bully and can very very physically intimidating, also both of his late teenage DDs will not speak to him.
PIL have at last come to the end of the road with him, he’s demanding, can be intimidating and he’s lazy. PIL have asked him to move out but he completely ignores them and says he can’t move until he has help form the council. He thinks he’s entitled to be provided, by the council a cheap flat, with a carer on standby, to do all domestic housework etc. He is perfectly capable of looking after himself apart from applying daily cream to his legs and feet, his stroke left him with limited use of his right arm. MIL has spent weeks phoning various council departments to ask about housing for him but she never gets a straight answer and gets sent from pillar to post.
BIL has 100k sat in the bank from his house sale and also has an adapted car which he is able to drive.
PIL have asked DH to tell him he must leave and for us to find out if he’s entitled to be provided with help but I think I’d be wasting my time, won’t I? Imo he just needs to go and rent somewhere and pay for someone to come in once a day to apply his cream. I am worried about what to do if he just refuses to go!
Does anyone have any advise as to how to approach this?
Sorry for the long lost, thank you for reading!