Helping dad's wife with care (Parkinson's)

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Has anyone here given up/reduced their work to help as a secondary carer (not sure if that's the official term?) for a parent?

How have you made it work for you, for your parent, and for your immediate family unit?

My dad has Parkinson's and is deteriorating and although his wife is his main carer I would like to be more involved. they live a 2-hour drive away.

I have two children and work 4 days a week (wfh)

Thanks for any experiences or thoughts.

I did it temporarily when Dad was terminally ill. I reduced and then gave up work (was freelance) and lived off savings. But I was single at the time. I wouldn't do it now I have a family or as a long term thing though as the impact on my DH and child would be too much.

What are you thinking of? Moving them closer and reducing your hours so you can be more available?

No. My DP with Parkinsons was insistent I didn't help though I filled in for paid for carers who were eventually live in and fulltime. Check about carers allowance for his wife.

Things will only get worse, though may be slowly. So social services or private care need to be involved to get the load off his wife.

Contact the Parkinson's Society for advice.

Thoughts with you.