My mum is 75, always generally been active and in good health. But the last 2 years her health has been declining.
She's lost weight and is very thin, her stomach is bloated, her hair has thinned, she looks frail.
However this is a women who hasn't seen a doctor since I was born 40yrs ago! She absolutely outright refuses any kind of medical treatment or being seen for anything.
For example I'm certain a year ago she broke her arm and she wouldn't seek help as she fell and then couldn't move it. She just held it for weeks and it still doesn't seem right.
Over the years she's been poorly and probably needed antibiotics but has never seen a GP etc. Her teeth have also all fallen out yet she won't see a dentist.
There's something wrong now and I'm worried. Both my grandparents (mums parents) died of bowel cancer and I'm worried about this weight loss and bloating. Her appetite is still there but she's never been a big eater.
How can I get through to her. She won't listen to my dad or anyone else. She just buries her head in the sand and changes the subject when you mention anything to do with health.
My dad is also battling advanced prostate cancer which she won't acknowledge.
My dad just says it's how she is and let her get on with it but I can't.
Please tell me I'm not alone in dealing with a parent this stubbon?!
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Ellemeg82 · 03/05/2023 14:53
Ellemeg82 · 03/05/2023 14:53
My mum is 75, always generally been active and in good health. But the last 2 years her health has been declining.
She's lost weight and is very thin, her stomach is bloated, her hair has thinned, she looks frail.
However this is a women who hasn't seen a doctor since I was born 40yrs ago! She absolutely outright refuses any kind of medical treatment or being seen for anything.
For example I'm certain a year ago she broke her arm and she wouldn't seek help as she fell and then couldn't move it. She just held it for weeks and it still doesn't seem right.
Over the years she's been poorly and probably needed antibiotics but has never seen a GP etc. Her teeth have also all fallen out yet she won't see a dentist.
There's something wrong now and I'm worried. Both my grandparents (mums parents) died of bowel cancer and I'm worried about this weight loss and bloating. Her appetite is still there but she's never been a big eater.
How can I get through to her. She won't listen to my dad or anyone else. She just buries her head in the sand and changes the subject when you mention anything to do with health.
My dad is also battling advanced prostate cancer which she won't acknowledge.
My dad just says it's how she is and let her get on with it but I can't.
Please tell me I'm not alone in dealing with a parent this stubbon?!
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