Hi
My elderly mum is not managing. She has heart disease and diabetes and has recently put on a lot of weight. This is getting her down but she won't exercise - even 10 minute walks - as she says she is scared of falling, won't sit outside to enjoy the sun (cataracts bother her but won't wear her sunglasses or a hat), doesn't want to eat and then has hypos, just wants to sit and do nothing. Her house is too big for her and is a mess but she won't move. She's had depression all my life. She's constantly tearful and expects us to do "something" but I don't know what - she seems to need constant company but I live 4 1/2 hours away and I have my family and job. She's pressuring her partner to be with her all the time and it's getting a lot for him to deal with emotionally too.
She says she can't get a f2f doctors appointment. I've spoken to a doctor about her in the past but of course they can't discuss her because of privacy, she's since moved surgery and I don't know who her doctor is.
Mother is also autistic and can be very stubborn and hard to deal with; any challenges or suggestions that she eat more regularly (we used to eat healthily in the past but this has slipped), choose less fatty food, come for a little walk, pull the curtains are taken as criticism and result in tears and/or angry outbursts. I DON'T WANT TO / I DON'T LIKE IT / I CAN'T is the shouted reply to everything.
Her partner is as concerned as me and I/we don't know what to do. I'm sad and worried. Any advice would be welcome, thank you.
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Mother multiple health issues, don't know what to do
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user58962411 · 17/04/2023 10:52
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