My dad is in his 90s, housebound due to a lung condition, lives in his own home with carers 4 x times a day, he's quite independent as in they come and help him, prep things for him and help get him to bed etc. he walks with a frame slowly and also has the use of a stairlift etc at home. I go one lunchtime a week to cook a hot meal and 1 half a day a week to spend time, do cleaning, shopping hot meal etc.
Fast forward a few weeks and due to an infection ended up in hospital, knocked him for 6 but he started to feel better, so from there after ABs kicked in they sent him to a rehab hospital to get him back on his feet before going back home.
NOW
He was only in there a few days and they noticed blood in his urine then a big bleed so rushed him to A&E, then after 2 days sent him back to the rehab hospital with a caphter in .... then a day later sent him back to hospital for a scan and then a few days later back to a different hospital for a bladder camera thingy...he's totally exhausted...the wait for transport back and forth to the hospital was crazy - wanting 4 hours after the camera thing for transport back, he's also not eating properly. So he's feeling drained, weak and not able to stand even with a routunder frame thing and they are hoisting him from bed to chair etc.
GOING FORWARD
So the OT wanted to look around his house to see what would be possible for him once he's sent home - obvs things have to change. She has said he would need a bed downstairs, a commode, 2 x carers per visit and would have to have a one-room living/existence as she put it. For him to stay in his own home he would need to adapt to this new way of living which I agree.
It's going to be a nightmare with him I'm sure. He's so set in his ways and very stubborn. Just wanted to know if anyone has experienced this, any pointers to give me, any advice on how to help my Dad adapt to this massive change for him etc. He wont see how lucky he really is to be able to still live in his own home still, he's quite selfish like that and I think Ive always done everything for him so Im really dreading it
Elderly parents
Anyones parent have their bed downstairs and live in one room with carers? How did they adapt to this change.
Longingforthesummer · 11/04/2023 17:24
user1471453601 · 11/04/2023 19:28
Why does your Dad need to live in one room only? Genuine question, definitely not goady.
If he can still use some form of rollator, and he has a chair lift, can be have have a walker for for upstairs and one for downstairs?
That's my plan. Currently I have two rollators, one for indoor use, downstairs, and one for outdoor use. And a stair lift. My next step will be to get a rollator for upstairs as well.
I may well have got things wrong. Perhaps your Dad can no longer use his rollater, in which case, just ignore me.
user1471453601 · 11/04/2023 19:28
Why does your Dad need to live in one room only? Genuine question, definitely not goady.
If he can still use some form of rollator, and he has a chair lift, can be have have a walker for for upstairs and one for downstairs?
That's my plan. Currently I have two rollators, one for indoor use, downstairs, and one for outdoor use. And a stair lift. My next step will be to get a rollator for upstairs as well.
I may well have got things wrong. Perhaps your Dad can no longer use his rollater, in which case, just ignore me.
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