My Mum who has Alzheimer’s was recently admitted to a care home after a lengthy admission to hospital. Historically I’ve always had a difficult relationship with them and I’m an only child. I endured a lot of emotional neglect, was regularly hit with objects and my childhood was miserable. I found out that I was step parent adopted when I was 15 and again that was handled badly. I’ve literally spent decades looking for my bio Dad and his family.
Whilst visiting my step Dad last weekend and literally running myself ragged in the process he remarked to my OH that perhaps he shouldn’t have married me as ‘there’s a good chance that I’ll develop Alzheimer’s like my Mum’. This has really upset me. Obviously it’s something I’m really anxious about anyway and have even thought about ending my life so my OH doesn’t have to face this burden. What I don’t need is someone else saying it. I’m really exhausted with having to have increased contact with parents who essentially didn’t care for me but this remark was the final straw. AIBU.