Hanging something around my wifes neck !!!!

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I wish to help my poor lady wife. She has mobility problems and has recently fallen. She is mobile but with a walking stick. We are both in general good-ish health at about 80(ish) yrs.

We need 2 x necklace type pendant alert alarms/receivers, each with a simple single largish button so that if one of the pendant alarm button is pushed (activated) probably by my wife in the house; the other pendant worn by me in the largish garden it will make a noise.

BTW anything complicated with smallish buttons is of no use. We do not consider our phones would be of use to us, the lady also has a poor sight problem.

We do not wish to move house to such as a bungalow albeit our 3 story house albeit wonderful has numerous stairs.

We realise we can buy into a care monthly paid system but we would at this time prefer our (above) option.

Thank you for your hopeful help and please ask any questions if needed AND low cost would be an advantage.

A wrist pendant might be easier. It doesnt get tangled up in glasses if you have them on a chain. A wrist fall pendant doesnt need to have the button actually pushed. The sudden motion will trigger it. Useful if the faller is knocked unconscious. Your local social work dept shpuld be able to help you access all sorts of help

If you just want something that will make a noise so you can summon each other, there are various personal alarms on the market which might help. Sometimes called rape alarms

Thanks Hedjwitch
we are trying to avoid a general very-very loud alarm sound.
We are trying to get a sound only from something on the (I don't like this term at this moment) carers wrist, neck or wherever.

www.amazon.co.uk/Wireless-Caregiver-Applicable-Disabled-Waterproof/dp/B0BC42N2D4/ref=sr_1_16?crid=35WKEI72LRER8&keywords=caregiver+alarm&qid=1674560900&sprefix=caregiver+alarm%2Caps%2C120&sr=8-16

I found this one by searching for "care giver alarm" on Amazon. Most of the receivers are mains operated but this seems to have a wrist watch type one.

I think you need to think practically here.

If mobility is becoming an issue, why the resistance to move?

I mean this kindly but it's better to take control of your own destiny now, rather than losing control as a result of a more serious fall where your freedom and choices become automatically more limited, such as being forced into a care home you don't want to be at.

Try and see things like carers as a positive choice which will help maintain your dignity and freedom.

I would also consider a stair lift, before the stairs become a problem. I agree with the wrist strap suggestion.

If you're determined to stay where you are (and I absolutely get that), then unless you have a room suitable for a long-term bedroom and a bathroom on the ground floor, I agree that you need to look at future-proofing your house now, as your wife could lose mobility quite suddenly as the result of another fall.

Might this get more responses in a section discussing similar mobility/safety issues - eg, Elderly Parents? OP, you can report your own post and ask MN to move it.

SoupDragon
Thank you
2+ hrs ago I ordered the one below.
I found it also by searching "Carer pager 1to1"
I will return to your suggestion if my choice is no good.
Again thank you.
order.ebay.co.uk/ord/show?itemId=204174362490&transactionId=2187719303010&mkpid=0&emsid=e11400.m43.l5920&mkcid=7&ch=osgood&euid=6d6c950ad9814b18a3cde4c8c224c741&bu=43146643033&exe=104281&ext=245395&osub=-1%7E1&crd=20230124063249&segname=11400#/

Thank you squishy--
We consider we are taking control of our lives we have said to date or present hone is the one we will be carried out from in a box (and probably thrown over a hedge).
We will utimately pay out of our pockets for carers to come into our home either part time or live in.
Again thank you for your help which we do appreciate.

Thank you Todler----
We have fitted (to date) 4 stairlifts; our old house has split staircases fom basement to attic.
We are not putting them to the basement BUT we have fitted one to the "servants" staircase !!! Not our description but we continue to use the name from when the house was built 1840-ish.
I have visited and gave my condolences to persons who are selling parents/grandparents staircase lifts.
We even considered a Stiltz or similar through the floor lift but rejected it.

Thank you Fetchez-----
Our ground floor dining room has been 'eyed-up' by me, against my dear wifes wishes.
It will take a double bed with a small en-suite and small wardrobe and a small sitting area.
All I need to do!!! is to provide a 100mm (4") waste pipe through a 0.5m (20") external wall and connect to the nearby sewer pipe within our garden Oh and build the en-suite and wardrobes "Seemple" if my lady allows it to happen.
AND yes another fall is a major concern.
Again thank you.

Bundler thank you
What a worthwhile and brilliant suggestion I will try to do so.
Again thank you

I bought my mum and dad a picture from from age uk, its a mobile but rather than having to dial numbers the screen has pictures ( I think it was up to eight) and you just press the picture and it dials their mobile, we just had 4 so decent sized pictures it cost £60 admittedly a few years ago, and then £10 a month on contract might be worth asking if they still do these,

We were skeptical it would work but when dads dementia got worse he could get holf of me day and night.

Can you contact your local council first? My parents have wrist and necklace alarms and they are provided and maintained for free by the council. They are absolutely fantastic and when activated, there is immediately a voice on the wall console, asking if they need help. If nobody answers within a set period, they then call me or my brother. It’s absolutely fantastic.