Sorry I can't answer all of the questions individually as I am up against it time wise.
When you think you have hit rock bottom there is always further down to go.
Yesterday was truly awful and fortunately my Dh took charge of it all. The care home needed to 'get rid' of mum and I fully understand their position. She had done so much damage and with the violence and trying to start a fire it was too much for them.
As someone correctly pointed out we could not use Section 136 as she was not in a public place. We spent at least 30 mins on the phone to the paramedics to try to find a solution other than take mum to A&E. Mum has a safeguarding plan in place at the hospital and we stressed again and again that the paramedics had to make sure the hospital picked this up. My Dh then went to the hospital only to find mum in a bay on her own. He got the nurse to look on mums record and print out the safeguarding plan which is a 1 to 1 care.
The local MH hospital had not beds and would not take a patient directly only via A&E.
OPMH had an answer phone as it was a Sunday
111 wait was 45 mins despite the advert on the radio saying 90 seconds.
I fully understand that the hospital are stretched for staff so my Dh sat with her through the evening. The Dr. assessed mum and said that without the background from my Dh they would have discharged her (unbeliveable).
Dh then spoke with the consultant and they admitted mum to the acute ward under DoLS.
Called everyone I could think of this morning. The hospital are transferring mum to another ward and are awaiting a psych review. The issue here is that during the day she is lucid and no-one seems to look at the history before declaring she is fine. She is far from fine and needs real help and a secure place.
The OPMH was utterly utterly useless and said give her diazepam. I kept telling them this was not a solution and she had had diazepam all week and every night had had psychotic episodes. For heavens sake
GP said she had also contacted the OPMH and been told the same.
Adult Social Services are trying to allocate a social worker but this has to be reviewed by the internal connect team.
The rest home said they will not take her back until it can be shown that she is recieving the correct medication and is no longer a danger. They have said we have to pay for the damage which is extensive.
I could go on but I know we are not yet at the bottom. Mum has decended into a psychotic hell and the system to keep her safe is broken. I have no other words.
thank you all again