Thank you for your replies
@uncomplicatedish I thought the staff were stretched at the LA but I will remember to make sure that even if the CN takes longer then there is some kind of committment from the LA
£850 pw seems more than reasonable given the costs of some other homes. Mum and Dad have lived in the same area all of their lives and as the decades have rolled by the area has become quite deprived therefore the care home costs reflect the area. It is by no means a luxury home and given the stretched services and the reasonable cost I would expect mum's care to be signed off for the particular home. One of the points for the home was that it does have currently funded residents and they are happy to accept new LA funded residents. Mum's mental health (Alzheimers) is very poor although her physical health is very good.
@euff I am not sure that at this late stage that paying for a pre arranged funeral would be looked on in a positive light by the LA. I will however start looking today to see what can be done.
It was a bit of a 'British Comedy' sketch yesterday. I took my parents to the GP for an 11:30 appointment for Dad. Mum won't let him out of her sight. The care home appointment was at 1100am so I said I would drop them off early as there is a coffee shop two doors down from the doctors. The care home is more or less opposite the GPs. So I had to drive away, saying I had the dentist, and would pick them up at midday. My Dh arrived and had we met at the top of the road and went into the back entrance of the care home so they did not spot us.
The home has capacity for 39 residents with one en-suite and 3 non-ensuites avialable. There are 5 staff during the day, 4 in the evening and 3 at nighttime. Not sure if this ratio is good or not?
It had a refurb around 3 years ago and a needs to improve CQC 3 years ago. The most recent CQC which was last year says it has improved and is not rated Good.
The building is old and it looks homely inside with wallpaper in the rooms rather than stark white/cream walls. The rooms are quite small although the en-suite ones are very reasonable.
The lead carer who showed us around was utterly lovely and had worked there for the last 16 months. Her mum had worked there for over 20 years. The place had a good feel and Dad can visit everyday as it is on the bus route outside his house and near to the GP where he goes. They will even give him his dinner so he can sit with mum. They are a specialist Dementia home and overall I would say that I would be happy with mum in that home.
I now have to make a decision as the rooms don't hang around too long especially if they have emergencies. My Dh thinks the time is right now as does my DSis (who has only seen them 3 times this year) and my DB has no input. I can't bring myself to split them up after over 60 years together. It is heartbreaking. My Dh asked if I was waiting for another incident that meant mum had to go into care and I think he is right. Mum is deteriorating more rapidly and dads health with type 2 diabeties is dreadful. They stuggle to take care of themselves and dads life is a misery. I know the right answer but as I said I just cant split them up. I have been together with my Dh for over 40 years and would never want to be split up. I have no idea how you can make a decision like this. You can look at all of the facts and find all of the best options but that does not take emotions into account
Thank you again