Mil fell last year. Spent months and months in hospital as couldn't be released without a care package. No injuries, just lack of looking after herself, dementia suspected (I am still unsure ifnthisnhas been formally diagnosed, we cannot seem to get an answer. They initially said she couldn't release herself then that she was fine, although at one point her capacity was questioned.)
Anyway, fell again and is back in hospital, has been for about a fortnight.
We dot t think she is able to look after herself.
She is mobile, with a Walker, but cannot leave the house. Has carers twice a day and a life line necklace thing. She is forgetful, says she hasnt spoken to dh etc when she spoke to him an hours earlier. It calls the care line 20 times but has no memory of it. Social services wont help anymore and she is lonely. Both us and bil live in a different country. (All uk). For various reasons we cannot move.
Both Dh and bil want her to oce to a care home but she is resisting. It may come to a point when she doesn't have a choice. But we are not quite there yet.
Her house will have to be sold to fund this - fine
Bil has said he is not willing to put in extra money to go private care home, which in totally understand.
Dh has blown up at this and it has ended up that bil has blocked dh number.
Thing is, we cannot afford to top it up either .
But howndoninsay this without upsetting dh, when it is his mother and such an emotional subject? We are in debt and barely scraping by as it is.