I stopped replying earlier (as at work and also) as this thread and question could have been so useful but it got derailed into end stage dementia CHC level and repetitive posts, which is so far above the question OP asked
I hope OP feels listened to
I will try once again to see if we can help OP positively without scaring her off!
OP of course can decide what is helpful to your relatives' situation
There's so much that MNers can share about what is useful in early stages of caring for someone with dementia at home in the earlier stages such as community resources, national ones, day services, use of PAs versus care agencies, how to recruit PAs or find/ choose a care agency, what dementia telecare equipment tried .
Many peoples with dementia can live long positive lives in the community with support as they need it, living independently for 10-15+ years for some people, it all depends on how each individual persons' dementia affects them and how it progresses, it varies so incredibly much
OP 1 if your parents decide to wait for social care assessment, the care manager/ SW will discuss. But if your parents decide to make their own self funded arrangements, if you can say a little bit more about specific difficulties on here in then maybe the wealth of experience on MN can make suggestions of what helped them ..
I always start with saying is it worth looking up good telecare service options - not just pendant alarms- but equipment (GPS trackers, door sensors, temperature alarms/for the person that fiddles with thermastat, telecare linked smoke alarms, etc..) - If you look up a national telecare company like Argenti - they do private fund as well as LA funded - you'll see a range of the most clever equipment they loan out and charge a small monthly fee for (even for self funders).
Also for eg in early days equipment like Speaking dementia clocks (date time, recordable voice alarms- often on Amazon) are good too. As can be Alexa based equipment. technology is developing all the time and can work well for some people
Ime a good dementia day service (self funded or LA funded) in early days can also provide support to the person as well as a regular break for the carer.
But without knowing how your Dad's dementia is affecting him as an individual at this point, it's difficult for MNers to help bc we won't be able to pitch it right
It's always my view social care assessments are worth their weight in gold! But there can be a wait for those in less urgent situations.. so by all means gather info and also please look at your LA website of useful services you can arrange or you won't want to do through them and have resources to, if they signposted your parents to it. (I cannot imagine they didn't .. ) to help you decide if you want to ask for / wait for social care assessment . You can go back to the LA to ask again if you feel they sent you off as "self funders " without offering to send your parent (to wait) for an assessment