My Mum (77) has pretty much stopped eating. There doesn't appear to be a physical cause, she's had a variety of tests, scans and endoscopies and there's no discernible reason. She manages a couple of yogurt drinks from the doctor, and can still drink plenty of alcohol - she has been an alcoholic for at least 40 years.
She is now very weak, struggles to get up, falls, is incontinent and is becoming very confused. She's not able to get upstairs and doesn't wash or change her clothes unless the carers do it. My Dad is struggling to look after her and physically lift her.
They have had an assessment by a social worker and have emergency carers twice a day. This is in place until the assessed care package is implemented. They have bought some grab rails, a raised toilet seat and lots of products for the incontinence. We'll be getting a stair lift fitted, and a falls response service in place soon. My parents will be funding the care and any aids and adaptations.
One of the problems is that they live very close to the local authority boundary, and while social care falls under their local council, their doctor falls under a different one. No one seems to know who is responsible for what. Is there anyone who knows what falls under social care and what falls under health care?
I just don't know who to approach to try and follow things up. For example I think she needs a recliner chair to reduce the falls when getting up from the chair. My Mum won't have one, but might be talked round if a professional said it was necessary. Would this be health - as something that may help reduce the chance of an admission to hospital - or social care? Or does no one recommend these? I don't know what I'm doing - they might be entirely inappropriate - but I don't know who to ask!