Parent who is stubborn

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i feel so sick with worry about my dad. I don’t live nearby but have family who do. He is about to be on his own (I don’t want to say too much as it is outing) but there are times where he will be completely alone. I’d have him here but he’d be alone all day in a house less set up for his needs than now. He is stubborn and doesn’t want care. It is s very short notice thing and so we’ve been left trying to scrabble together to share the load. I’m up in the middle of the night now and all I can think about is something happening to him. For reference he will be alone for about 5 days. Does anyone else have poorly mobile parents that have been okay alone?

So it’s just 5 days, not forever ?
Then just make sure he’s got enough food, perhaps some ready meals, and he will have to be ok.

Thank you. Other people say the same. I think I’m catastrophizing. There will be someone going in every day to check on him and we will be face timing him; he will just be alone every night.

@disappointed101

Sorry I can't help you other than to say I really sympathise. We have a very similar situation with MIL, who really needs to be in a residential care, but refuses point blank and is at home alone, although we live virtually next door.

We are going away for a week, it's not a holiday, it's mainly work but with a few days added on to see DS. We have organised as much care as we can but some of the carers are a bit slapdash, although they are all kind. Neighbours have promised to keep an eye, but we are just dreading it.

TonTonMacoure I hope your trip goes well and that you can enjoy it somewhat x

It’s a nightmare worrying about them. My parent is on the cusp of needing some sort of care to take tablets several times a day. She insists she is fine, and a lot of the time she probably is. Other times when the medication wears off or she forgets to take them, she becomes confused and forgetful. She refuses point blank to consider a care home, though I am not sure I blame her.