I recently posted on another thread but was advised posting on this thread might be more helpful.
My father who is in his 70's has lived abroad for 6 years, I went to visit him regularly the first 3 years but the last 3 we haven't spoken so much.
I recently moved into a house from a flat & have a spare bedroom, garden, etc. I've got myself a job, and DD Into a brilliant school.
My father came to visit 2 months ago, I was told initially he would only be staying for a couple of weeks. He went to the GP for some issues he was having with his skin, he has been told he has skin cancers that need removing.
Long story short, he has had to extend his stay. I told him only a few days into his visit that he couldn't stay here on a long term basis, that it wasn't fair on me for him to waltz back into my life once I got back on my feet. I've been through hell and back while he's been living in the sunshine.
First month he had absolutely no money, he cost me quite a lot to be honest. It was almost like it was expected of me.
He has now mentioned going back to where he lives, selling his place, and living with me permanently.
Having him around has its positives, but also many negatives. Living with him growing up was awful, I'm getting a lot of those feelings of resentment back.
I've also had my sister come and stay for a month, she's moving abroad, so having both of them around me for the last 4 weeks has really taken its toll. I'm ready for them both to leave now. I'm starting a new job next week, DD is back in school, yet all I can think about it this. My sister leaves tomorrow, dad is thinking of going the second half of September.
I just feel like a mug, I feel extremely bitter about the situation, I wasn't even asked!!!! I've slowly been led into it.
If he had sat down and spoken to me about it that would have been better but he has literally just fucking assumed this is all ok despite me telling him when he got here that I don't want him staying for long.!!!