OT calling re - Discharge of DF

[Borntobeamum]

My dad is currently in a community hospital for rehab.
He has severe leg/hip pain and at 89 he’s reluctant to attempt walking 🤦‍♀️
My mum is In Respite as she’s unable to be left alone.
The ward sister told me OT will be calling me Monday or Tuesday. Ideally Dad will go to the same care home as mum but this will only be until we find a more suitable home.
What are they likely to ask me?
What can I get from this conversation?

Many thanks x

Is your dad able to look after himself? Get to the toilet in time both from living rooms and bedroom? Use stairs safely? Wash and dress himself? Prepare a sandwich or other simple meal, prepare and carry hot drinks safely? If no to any of these then he is not ready to be discharged home, even with care staff calling in during the day. Make sure you emphasise that you will NOT be available to fill in the gaps ( even if it is true) .

Thank you for your reply.
Until dad was admitted to hospital, he and mum were living independently. Dad was struggling with mum who is 90 and unable to cook, clean, shop etc. I think he’s just had enough and no, he wouldn’t be able to do 90% of the things you asked.

I think we’ve already decided they cannot live alone again. Mum is coping remarkably well in the home, but it was always just a stop gap. Dad would hate it, I know he would.
My brother and I will need to look around purpose built care homes as I feel they will be more acceptable to dad.

Whilst they are both 89/90, until a few weeks ago they were going out for a meal in an evening using taxis.

I don’t live local and battling ill health myself.
I am so at a loss as to navigate the system to ensure mum and dad live out their twilight years in a manner that is befitting of them.
😪

Until a few weeks ago they were going out for a meal in an evening using taxis

**How sad for him, to lose independence so quickly must be very demoralising and depressing .

It is. It’s absolutely soul destroying to see them like this.
Mum has been deteriorating for quite a while but Dad has coped. This has now brought it to a head and if he can’t push through this pain, get mobile again, I doubt he will try to improve.
Hes being given a cocktail oramorph codeine and ibuprofen but I think as soon as he feels pain and discomfort, he gives in.

What his mobility and independence was like pre admission. What adaptations and aids are already in their home. What their routine is like. Do they currently have or need a care package.

His mobility was poor but managed to walk out to the car, into a restaurant and to the loo if required. He used a stick.

He had a bed frame on the side of his bed to help him get out. We had a stairlift installed as he cannot do stairs. They have a frame around the loo to help them both get in and off. (No loo downstairs)

No care package in situ.
Self funding as they have over £23000 in savings and own their own home.