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Holiday with care available?

6 replies

summerlovin12 · 02/05/2022 19:40

Hi my MIL keeps on asking to go on holiday. She has limited mobility and has carers come in 3 times a day. We keep saying about days out instead. I think a holiday is probably not possible. However has anyone heard of one / experience of one? I'm thinking of a weekend place with care available however where we can book somewhere nearby in order to take her out. TIA

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mittensonelastic · 02/05/2022 19:50

Were you thinking UK or abroad? My DM and her partner love the Mat y Sol in Los Cristianos Tenerife, they have caters available as well lots of different aids, hoists into the pool etc.

mittensonelastic · 02/05/2022 19:50

Sorry autocorrect - Mar y Sol

Thepowerofthelook · 02/05/2022 19:56

When I was a district nurse many of my patients went to care homes in Bridlington, Filey, Scarborough and whitby for holidays. This is 10+ years ago but might be worth looking at costal nursing homes. Your mil carers/nurses or social workers might know of such places within easy commute of where they live. Or try adult social care team where you want to go.

IthinkIsawahairbrushbackthere · 03/05/2022 00:36

I would be concerned about the travel - if she needs carers three times a day how will you get her in and out of the car? To the toilet etc? My mum had two care visits a day and I did everything in between. It could easily take us 30 minutes to get her from the wheelchair into the car and the same again at the other end.

I was happy to take mum away on my own when she was able to stand up by herself but the last 4 years or so were a nightmare.

TheLadyofShalott1 · 03/05/2022 02:04

There definitely are some holiday hotels in some of the coastal towns that come with carers, hoists, etc. If you found one quite near to you it might be doable depending on your MiLs levels of continence and mobility.

Even if she needed a wheelchair all the time, and has adult 'nappies', as long as you have her straps for a hoist, and you can fit her chair in the car, and you and your husband are willing to change her, more and more places in England have what are called "changing places" they are very large disabled toilets, with a Some services have them, and places like the Trafford center have one - which might make a nice day trip for your MiL if you live near there - other shopping-malls probably have them too.

I can tell you, that living behind 4 walls, day in and day out, while your mind is still active, is very boring and can be very depressing too. But you, and other family carers like you, also have my greatest sympathy, even if you don't have to do the messy care work, it can be, and probably is, both very stressful and frustrating ‐ trying to arrange things like hospital appointments, and yes days out, and especially holidays away.

It can be done, but those hotels are probably very expensive (unless maybe your council would pay for some respite care in one?), and when I have seen photos of them inside they don't look exactly luxurious - that isn't to say that there aren't some very nice ones, I have very limited knowledge about them.

However if you are able to facilitate a little holiday for her that would be lovely, but don't make yourselves ill worrying about it if it is too difficult. If we are "lucky", we all get older, but we are not able to do the things we once loved doing. So if you can do them when you are fit and able, please do them x

ps. I meant to add that you should be able to find out about specialist holiday hotels on the Web, but maybe don't type in "specialist hotels", as goodness knows what may come up - no pun intended!

BlanketsBanned · 03/05/2022 12:44

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