At witts end with mum

[DangletitsMcDougal]

Mum has parkinsons. She moved into a care home last September and HATES IT. Her parkinsons/mobility has nose dived and she's no hope at all of looking after herself....

Her biggest thing is she's uncomfortable (not pain) she's doesn't sleep well and she's quite frankly very depressed..

She's cantankerous to the care home staff, rings the bell literally all the time, and they're getting to their limit.

We did have an appt with a consultant who wanted to change the frequency of her medication and her antidepressant but nothing has happened yet. Should do this week.

I don't know what to do. Is there ANYTHING I can do? I'm at the end of my rope with her ringing me complaining and crying. I have young children and a busy job also. I'm trying but failing everyone and don't know what to do.....

Help

Is she being funded by the council? Is she able to make her own phone calls? Can she call the social work team and tell them she is not happy?

Would anything improve her life? Talking books? A big telly? Someone else to talk to?
It's a rubbish situation, I wouldn't want to be in a care home with Parkinson's. But it's also not your fault or responsibility and for your well-being you might need to set some boundaries about when she rings you. Sorry this is happening to you and your mum.

Is she in the right home? When my MIL was in a home - cancer end of life - most of the residents were in the same position. However there was 1 lady with parkinson's. She was bored. She needed people to do stuff with her. I felt so sad for her. We ended up playing games with her and stuff she livened up no end. But I think things dropped for her when MIL passed away as she was the only 'life' in there.she wasn't int he best place for her although it was convenient for her husband who lived in the same village.

Thank you ladies. I think that that for now lll wait and see of the new antidepressant helps and the change in meds. I do think a different home might help but don't want to make too many changes at once.

Shes got a telly, books, activities radio but no interest.

It's so bloody awful. My dad had motor neurone disease but this seems worse.