Revoking POA

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I have POA for my mother, i wish to revoke it. Someone kindly linked me to the forms a while back but has anyone done this and knows how long it takes to go through?

Out of interest, why do you want to revoke it?

Soon because my mother is verbally abusive to me. She was diagnosed with anti social personality disorder a few months ago after she tortured my sick father who is now stuck in nursing home. She was abusive to us as children, a reason my sister has nothing to do with her.
I now have high BP and anxiety dealing with the stress of the last 8 months and today her care agency have threatened me with SS saying there is a safeguarding issue as she has no food. In last 3 weeks ,food and household essentials totalling £250 has been delivered. She has thrown food out before as she knows i will get called and will have to interact with her.
She has mental capacity according to her mental health team.

So my advice would be for you to step away from her at the moment - she has capacity so SS should deal with her directly. Having POA doesn’t mean you need to actually do anything at the moment. The reason I say this is because my mum and stepfather wouldn’t apply for POA. My mum died last month, my stepdad does NOT have capacity and is in a carehome now with advanced dementia. I’m having such a battle trying to get anywhere with him because of a lack of POA.
There may come a time when from a practical point of view, having POA may well be useful in the future. But of course, it’s entirely your decision. Having difficult parents is crap!

You should do what is right fir you.
However having POA does not in any way mean you are her carer.
Tell SS to go jump... if she loses capacity come back and talk to you then.
Go NC for now if you want. You are not obliged to be involved in her care.

If she has capacity to make a decision then health and welfare POA isn’t active for that decision.

Having POA does not make you her carer. You don’t have to take that level of responsibility.

Let the carers raise a safeguarding issue - it’s not your fault there is no food in the house, clearly. There is no threat to you.

But like @Soontobe60 says, POA might come in handy in the future if she does lose capacity, unless you plan to go 100% NC forever.

Is this health & welfare LPA or financial/legal? If it is health and welfare it does not kick in until someone lacks capacity, so is irrelevant from what you say. I would guess the care agency is just holding you responsible because you are a family member (the only one still in contact with her?). They and SS will keep trying to get you involved, whether or not you have power if attorney, until you take a step back and refuse. They can't force you. You say the agency is 'threatening you with SS' - surely it would actually be a good thing if social services got involved at this stage?

Give Office of the Public Guardian a call and ask them. They are pretty helpful.

If she has mental capacity then your poa is irrelevant anyway, let the agency put in a safeguarding concern, like pp said call the opg or follow the online advice to revoke your poa. If the agency call again tell them to call ss and her mental health team. Step back and do not get involved.

SS can't be used as a threat, it's not the same as with children where they can be removed from your care. Your mother is an adult, she has capacity - what can they do?

MIL was discharged from hospital late one evening and cried to the neighbour that she had nothing in the house to eat. Neighbour brought round a hot meal - I'd brought shopping in two days earlier, the freezer was packed, there were tins on the shelf. At the time I was raging that I'd been shown as a neglectful relative by a manipulative woman who couldn't be bothered to warm up a meal but then I thought about it and decided that I really didn't care what some random thought about me.

There is no law that you have to care for your abuser. Your search term is "disclaim a lasting power of attorney" and the link is here

www.gov.uk/government/publications/disclaim-a-lasting-power-of-attorney

I have no idea how long it takes but in the interim just refuse to act as attorney. Be prepared for it to make no difference to care agencies - my experience is that they will chase whichever family member is easiest.

In all honesty I’d cut all ties.
Stop answering social care calls, you’re under no obligation to do anything.