DGM's memory

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DGM has all classic signs of early stages of dementia - she even said on the phone today that she took part in a research study on elderly memory and got 0/6 of the memory combinations right. She was very upset and my DM & I have been worrying about her for quite some time now.

Problem is we live in Scotland, she lives in Wales, and she doesn't want to move up. She has no family around but lots of friends and doesn't want to leave them. DP and I are willing to move to Wales temporarily to help her sort her affairs and move up but DGM really doesn't want to and won't entertain the thought.

Does anyone know exactly where we go from here? Thank you.

How long has it been since any of the family spent face to face time with her? The pandemic has played havoc with mental health and memory of course and if the family hasn't seen her it might be harder to get an accurate picture of her. My mum was able to present really well on the phone but in real life she was very different.

It is understandable that she doesn't want to move halfway across the country and even doing that could make things worse for her. Could someone actually visit her and see what her needs really are, maybe visiting the GP with her and putting services in place to support her in her home.

I'm in Wales so I don't know if you have the same support in Scotland but as a first step I would suggest making an appointment to talk to an Admiral Nurse who can point you in the right direction.