My father has been in care home for 3 months, he has now dropped to the £23,250 threshold. I contacted his council in November to say there wasn't a lot money left and they have been dragging their heels since. I do not have POA for him, i do for my mother but they will speak to me to a point as although he has full capacity his education was poor.
I am now being pestered by care home to sign forms to say i will help him pay his bills, meaning top up if needed. The finance lady at home said it was unusual to ask residents relatives to top as home is one of the cheaper ones but she couldn't guarantee it.
I am so anxious, we don't have a lot of spare money as i had to go PT to home educate my teen daughter who has been seriously ill over the last two years.
I have had so much stress over last few months because my mother has abused my father. He had to be removed from his home in middle of night in November and can't go home. In the meantime she has inherited a large amount and is spending it on all sorts of things and he can't touch it and i may be asked to pay towards his care.