Struggling with disabled parent Part 4

[Duchess379]

Some of you may recall my previous posts in relation to my mum who is struggling with mobility since her strokes
Struggling with a disabled parent. Part 3 - www.mumsnet.com/talk/elderly_parents/4430869-struggling-with-a-disabled-parent-part-3

Just when I thought it couldn't get any worse, my dad had a heart attack. At home! He called out to me for help early Saturday morning & I immediately called for an ambulance. They turned up within 10 minutes which was handy because he 'crashed' in the back of the ambulance & they had to use a defibrillator on him to bring him back. Ended up being rushed to hospital & having 3 stents put in.
So, now I've got one parent who requires 24/7 monitoring because she can't move about on her own safely & another who's recovering from major surgery. And I'm trying move into a bungalow. I'm absolutely at my wits end. It's like a cruel joke. How can so much shit land at one person's feet?
I totally resent both my parents selfishness at only having one kid!
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Just to say that 3 stents isn't major surgery but is probably a wake up call to tell everyone that the whole situation isn't working.
Use it as a lever to effect changes.

can't seem to access your old link but stents are not major surgery but he obviously needs to rest afterwards and cannot look after your mum, do you live with them. social services and mums g.p. need to re-assess her care needs and look for alternavie care for her.

I think I remember your previous posts - I’m not clear if you are looking for solutions or just a place to vent.

You say you wish they had had more children - but even if your parents had had more children there would not be a guarantee they would wish to become carer in they way that you currently are. It is a choice.

This is currently all on you but it doesn’t have to be. If you want to change the situation you need to speak to adult social services and explain that you are not able to provide the level care for your mum that she currently needs.

And the same for the hospital - it needs to be clear that you cannot provide ongoing care for your dad should he require it when he is discharged.