I am posting because I feel very sad and fearful and lost. My Dad has been deteriorating over the last 12 months. We don't know why. I am a healthcare professional, and because I have pushed and have contacts I've been able to get him seen (whole other thread there, I am so angry about it). He is tired all the time, can only walk short distances. His quality of life has dwindled. He was admitted to hospital before Christmas for 5 days (after I called 111 and insisted that someone came to see him). He has a scan tomorrow and more tests in early February. If this was someone else's father, I could be objective and clinical and order the right tests. I can't do that for him because I'm not objective. We are stuck in a limbo. I don't know of I'm more afraid that that scan will show something or if it will be normal and we'll be back to not know why he's gone from a relatively active man to someone who can't climb 2 flights of stairs. I'm frightened for him and my mum, and I'm dreading having to tell my children if there is something on the scan. I'm not looking for a diagnosis on here, they've done all the usual tests so now it's looking for the unusual things. I feel very alone. My husband is great but he's away and he's not close to his parents.