Hi there
I wonder if anyone can help.
My 84 yo Dad lives with a woman (in her home) who cares for him. He moved in with her in October 2020 after suffering a mini-stroke. He pays her £1000 a month. I've no idea if this is relevant.
They are companions (I've no idea if there's more to it). So as not to drip feed my Mum and Dad split 3 years ago and his companion is their old neighbour.
She has consistently said from the start of this arrangement that she is at her wits end, that she cannot cope and that Dad needs to go into respite care. When I ask her what she wants, she won't tell me.
She is unwilling to engage with me to let me know what is going on with my Dad though and so far I've booked and had to cancel two places in respite homes because it appears she blocks it.
I call my Dad often (he's three hours away by car) and I've been to visit, but because he has early onset dementia I don't feel I can take what he says he wants at face value.
I don't even know at this point if he can stay there any more.
My question is: Does she have a duty of care to work to communicate with us?
My brother and I have full Power of Attorney.
Thanks in advance if anyone has any wisdom.